Anger Management

I prefer to call it anger removal. Anger in itself is not a problem. It’s a natural human emotion. What we do with the anger is the problem. Usually, we tend to vent it on the very people we profess to love and we hurt them. If you look into angry people’s lives, there is usually hurts from childhood that have not been resolved. Hurt people hurt people!

Sometimes, our anger (which is a defense mechanism) will mask the original hurt (because it’s too much to handle). I help you break down the defenses and heal from the inside. As an outsider uninvolved in the dynamics of your life, you will feel more comfortable discharging your hurts and resentment in my clinic than in your own home. It’s certainly more therapeutic.

This is probably the toughest area in my work, as most angry people have so much hurts that they haven’t been able to acknowledge, thereby building a false self around their true self. I help you break down the façade and get to know the real, hurting you, so that you can release that hurt and heal, from the inside out.

Angry people often have the extreme need to control others and have low tolerance of differences, because of their inner (unconscious) insecurity in their own identity (thereby weaving a false strong, secure self).

Working through these layers of denial and defense is what usually takes the time. The more sincere you are in seeking help, humbling yourself before yourself (!), the faster is your recovery and your ability to love and accept people around you, just as they are, and the faster you will find JOY in life.